I started Little Love Bug back in 2017 when my youngest was just a baby learning to walk. She was an early walker (9 months) and petite, so the options for her regarding shoes were terrible.
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But that’s not what I’m writing about today. Those of you who have followed me for a long time, know that LLB was created and inspired by my two kids – That’s the cute part of my story.
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It was also used against me, in court, during my divorce. And to this day… Though I know somewhere in my soul that there’s NOTHING wrong with that truth/ narrative… I was once told it made me appear obsessive over my children. It somehow made me a “bad mom”. I decided a long time ago there is only one place where this could be spun to be a negative - divorce court is that place.
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I’m writing that truth because I think that a lot of single moms live in the shadows. There’s an ugly truth of walking this path that quite honestly is often highly judged. We quietly deal with a world of our own built in a society meant for two. The irony is – there’s a judgment placed upon single Moms as if the majority made a choice to be in that position.
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I for one can tell you, it’s not a family structure I ever thought I’d be living. And honestly, sometimes, it really sucks.
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Now, don’t get me wrong. I wouldn’t change it. I’d rather lead a life that’s different than lead a life that makes me feel trapped and against everything that makes me… Me. As Dolly Parton once said, “Find out who you are. And do it on purpose.” I choose to live my life now on purpose.
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But with the glit and glamour that makes social media what it is – Behind the pretty, know there’s often an ugly under belly. I want moms to know – The ones in the shadows with a smile on their face when they feel like doing anything but smiling - I see you – I get it. It’s hard. Really hard. But you’re doing a great job – Even on what you consider your worst days.
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But that’s not what I’m writing about today. Those of you who have followed me for a long time, know that LLB was created and inspired by my two kids – That’s the cute part of my story.
.
It was also used against me, in court, during my divorce. And to this day… Though I know somewhere in my soul that there’s NOTHING wrong with that truth/ narrative… I was once told it made me appear obsessive over my children. It somehow made me a “bad mom”. I decided a long time ago there is only one place where this could be spun to be a negative - divorce court is that place.
.
I’m writing that truth because I think that a lot of single moms live in the shadows. There’s an ugly truth of walking this path that quite honestly is often highly judged. We quietly deal with a world of our own built in a society meant for two. The irony is – there’s a judgment placed upon single Moms as if the majority made a choice to be in that position.
.
I for one can tell you, it’s not a family structure I ever thought I’d be living. And honestly, sometimes, it really sucks.
.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I wouldn’t change it. I’d rather lead a life that’s different than lead a life that makes me feel trapped and against everything that makes me… Me. As Dolly Parton once said, “Find out who you are. And do it on purpose.” I choose to live my life now on purpose.
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But with the glit and glamour that makes social media what it is – Behind the pretty, know there’s often an ugly under belly. I want moms to know – The ones in the shadows with a smile on their face when they feel like doing anything but smiling - I see you – I get it. It’s hard. Really hard. But you’re doing a great job – Even on what you consider your worst days.