Why You Should Stop Feeling Guilty as a Mom
You're doing your best
No matter what anyone else says or thinks, you’re doing the best you can as a parent. It's easy to get caught up in what other people think of you and your parenting skills, but don't forget that no one knows better than you what your unique situation is like. No two children are the same, and everyone's parenting style is different.
It's okay to make mistakes. Everyone does. Don't beat yourself up when things don't turn out the way you expected them to. It's important to learn from your mistakes and use them as an opportunity to grow and become a better parent. Remember that as long as you're trying, you're doing your best.
Your kids are happy and healthy
As a parent, it is important to remember that you are doing your best and your kids are probably feeling the love and care you give them. At times, it can be hard to see the positive outcomes of all the efforts you make. One way to put your mom guilt at ease is by recognizing that your kids are happy and healthy.
It is normal for kids to get into squabbles or to have occasional health issues, but overall, as long as your kids are safe, fed, and loved, they are doing well. Take a moment to appreciate how much progress your kids have made in their development, whether it's their physical growth or the way they have grown emotionally.
Your children's wellbeing should be your main priority. If you are taking the time to provide them with the best care, then it is worth celebrating their successes and understanding that mistakes or setbacks are simply a part of growing up. Remember that it takes effort, patience, and consistency to create a loving and nurturing environment for your children.
When you find yourself overwhelmed with guilt, take a step back and think about all the things you do to ensure that your kids are happy and healthy. You are a great mom and you should be proud of yourself for creating a safe and nurturing space for them.
Guilt is normal but it's not helpful
It’s natural for moms to feel guilt. We want to be the best parents we can be and often put a lot of pressure on ourselves to do everything perfectly. We may also compare ourselves to other parents and beat ourselves up if our parenting doesn’t look like theirs. But guilt isn’t helpful and it won’t make you a better mom. In fact, it can make you feel overwhelmed, anxious and depressed. Instead of dwelling on the guilt, focus on how you can be the best mom you can be. Acknowledge the mistakes you make, but don’t dwell on them. There are more important things to focus on, such as spending quality time with your children, finding ways to connect with them, and teaching them valuable life lessons.
There are more important things to focus on
It can be easy to get caught up in the guilt that comes with being a mom, but it’s important to remember that there are more important things to focus on. If you find yourself feeling guilty, take a moment to think about the positive aspects of your life. Focus on the good moments you have with your children and the things you do right as a mom. Celebrate the successes, big or small.
Additionally, it’s important to focus on taking care of yourself. Make time for yourself and do activities that bring you joy and make you feel good. Taking some “me time” will help boost your mood and make you a better mom for your kids. Taking time for yourself doesn’t make you a bad mom—it actually makes you a better one. It’s also a good idea to prioritize your mental health. Consider seeing a therapist or joining a support group if you need help dealing with your emotions.
Ultimately, there are far more important things to focus on than mom guilt. You are doing the best you can as a parent, so try to let go of the guilt and focus on all the amazing things you do for your family.
Let go of the things you can't control
One of the most important things to remember as a mom is that there are some things that are simply beyond your control. We all have our own ideas of what motherhood should look like, and sometimes our expectations can be unrealistic. There will be days when your kids won’t listen, when they make messes, when they get sick or when they act out in public. And it’s important to let go of the guilt that comes with these moments. Remember that you can’t always control what happens, and that’s OK.
It can be hard to do, but it’s important to give yourself permission to let go of these things. You can’t control your kids’ behavior, their successes or failures, or their future. Instead, focus on what you can control: setting boundaries, staying positive and having honest conversations with your kids about difficult topics. Letting go of the guilt associated with not being able to control everything can help you move on from difficult moments and find joy in parenting.